12 Ways to Manage Picky Eating in Toddlers

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Charlie eating kimchi — looks gross, but he tries anything. On his main plate I had made pasta carbonara. Yeah, we don’t stick to one kind of food around here! We eat weird combinations! Notice my littlest is not pictured 😉

My first son is a great eater. My second son is pickier. Why the difference? My eldest was always in the normal range for weight and so when he refused to eat something I served, I’d tell him, “If you don’t like it, you don’t have to eat it, but I’m not making anything else.” So it didn’t matter if he ate or not. So he ended up eating because he knew I was serious.

My youngest has always been small. The doctor said, “Put him on the butter and burger diet.” We never felt that we could let him go hungry so sometimes would make him something else if he didn’t like the first option. I never thought I’d be a short order cook! Now that he’ll be three years old in three months, we have seen him become more open to new foods. Here’s what has worked for us:

  1. Serving Non-Preferred Foods on the Family Table
    We continue to serve foods that we don’t think he’ll eat. Daniel sees me put peanut-fried noodles with tofu on the table. He sees what the family eats even if he doesn’t want it.
  2. Putting Food on His Plate
    Daniel has to be okay with different foods on his plate, just like the rest of the family. He doesn’t have to eat it, but it’s on his plate.
  3. “You Have to Lick it.”
    If he doesn’t want to eat it, he has to lick it before he can leave the table. He has not had a problem licking something. The taste has surprised him and maybe 3/10 times after he licked it, he went ahead and ate it, saying, “Dat good!”
  4. Touching the Food
    If licking a food seems to be too much for your picky eater, see if he/she will touch it with their fingers. If they say no, ask them to pick it up and toss it in the garbage. Any interaction with the food desensitizes your child from worrying about the food in the future.
  5. Playing with your Food
    My toddler loves it when food talks to him. We also make foods walk around. It looks ridiculous but it makes eating pleasurable instead of a battleground.
  6. Touch the Food with a Spoon or Napkin
    In an effort to get your child to be willing to eat something new, consider touching food with something else. That way there’s a barrier between the child and the “weird” new food, but they are still interacting with it.
  7. Involve Child in Cooking
    My younger kid loves to eat while we prepare foods. He might not eat the final product, but he’ll nibble as we cook together. If you’ve never cooked with your kids, I’d try baking something from a mix first. It’s hard to screw it up. It’s fun to stir and see what happens!
  8. Try Smoothies
    Both my kids like smoothies. We make them together using the stick blender. It’s fun to peel the banana and add milk. I put in a little scoop of Raw Meal powder, which I call “chocolate.”
  9. Keep Offering
    Both of my sons went through periods of thinking something was awesome and then it wasn’t. For my older son it was avocado. For months he couldn’t get enough of it and, then out of the blue, he refused it for seven months. One day he decided to try it again and we were back to normal. It’s maddening!
  10. Go to a Restaurant
    My toddler eats three times as much at a restaurant. He loves white rice so we take him to a pita place that serves yellow rice. It expands his repertoire by letting him eat a preferred food that just a bit different. He’ll try some chicken shwarma sometimes too!
  11. Incorporate More Sensory Play
    Get out a big Tupperware and put dried beans and/or rice in there. Then get little trucks or measuring cups and spoons and have your child play. Children who are picky are often less willing to experiments new sensory experiences. My younger one hated sand when he first felt it on his feet at the beach, but by day two he was fine. Lack of exposure to different textures can be an issue. Try snow and sand too!
  12. Call Your Doctor
    I put on my speech path hat to give you the suggestions above, but consider talking to your doctor if your child’s preferences decrease to a small subset of foods. For example, if your child accepts only 10-15 foods or less, you may have a feeding disorder on your hands. Feeding therapy (from a speech path or occupational therapist) can make a difference. If your child eats all fruits and hot dogs, hamburgers, and chicken nuggets, that’s probably not a feeding disorder (more than 15 foods). I would be concerned if a child ate only grapes, watermelon, milk, only McDonalds nuggets and fries, yogurt, certain crackers, and they are getting worse. That could be a feeding disorder. If in doubt, talk to your doctor.

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3 Responses to 12 Ways to Manage Picky Eating in Toddlers

  1. Mardi (eat. live. travel. write.) August 9, 2015 at 1:51 am #

    These are some really great tips Sarah! Sounds like Daniel’s well on his way to being a good (better?) eater!

  2. Amy August 19, 2015 at 10:11 am #

    This is honestly one of the best articles/amount of information I’ve ever read on “picky eaters”. I don’t have kids, don’t ever expect to, but I’m a picky eater myself, and pretty much have been for…31 years. So much of what is published about picky eaters drives me up the wall, because people obviously don’t get it. I hate being a picky eater, I try not to be, but it’s not that easy. I honestly don’t know much about what my mum and dad did with me while I was growing up, but I know I had a relatively narrow range of foods that I liked, and I ate healthy. My range of foods is a lot wider now, but still very narrow compared to most. I still try new things all of the time, and I retry old things (and very often still don’t like them). It’s so much more than taste-texture, smell, visual…

    Yeah, this is sort of a pointless rant that doesn’t say a whole lot beyond thank you for the thought and time that you’ve put into this!

    • Mrs Q August 29, 2015 at 9:51 am #

      Thank you for saying that! It’s a complex subject and it’s not something that can be just brushed off. Take care! 🙂

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